I got my Cannabis Fundamentals Certificate!!!

I am super excited that I just finished and passed my certification test for Cannabis Fundamentals through Green Flower!! It was a lot of information, but I fell in love with what I am doing all over again! Stop selling sh*t (especially MLM products) that you have no idea about. Immerse yourself in what you are offering to your clients. I learned sooo much from this course from the history of Cannabis and what it helps with to how it is processed and how to use it effectively.

I said this before and I will keep saying it. Use this time to focus on you. I know things are crazy in the world but y’all you can come out of this situation better than ever if you play your cards right. You don’t have to do everything, but you can do something each day to get you closer to your goals. Give yourself some grace, but never allow yourself to give up or tell yourself that there is nothing you can do. I am working from home with my three daughters, my fiancé, my mother who is 74 with an amputated leg and my 70 year old aunt who is still working each day. I find time to work on my goals even with chaos’s going on around me and so can you.

I dedicated 2020 to personal and professional development and I am making a way to get it done even when I don’t feel like it because I know it will only help me be better at what I am doing in the long run. I challenge you to find something this week to work on that will help you take a step toward your goals. You got this! 💋 🌱

If you are interested in taking this course, visit Green Flower . I highly recommend it if you are in any way interested or are working in the Cannabis industry, especially if you sell CBD or other cannabis products.

Clarity of purpose Breeds Confidence (DAY #6 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi beautiful!

If you missed yesterday’s post, I gave you the deets on how being more self-aware can help you feel better about yourself. Today, you will learn how having a clearly defined purpose can be a huge confidence booster.

Having a strong sense of self is imperative to loving yourself. As noted in yesterday’s post, self-awareness helps you to better understand yourself and what drives your behavior. This understanding helps you to be more compassionate with yourself when times are tough. Similarly, having a strong sense of purpose can help to solidify your self-love. When you know what you want to do with your life, it’s easier to recognize your own value and to feel more love for yourself. Getting clear about your purpose can help boost your confidence. Read on to learn how it works. 

What is Purpose?

Purpose can have a wide array of definitions. For this post, consider your purpose to be your “why.” For example, why do you do what you do? What is the underlying motivation you have for working, playing, relating to others, etc.? If you don’t know the answer to this, it’s time to start giving it some thought. Take notes on these questions and look for patterns of what drives you. Knowing your strongest motivation or purpose in life is important to a number of things, including your success, happiness, and self-confidence.

The Connection Between Purpose and Confidence

When you understand what’s most important to you in life, you can then take proactive actions based on those priorities. Living in accordance with your purpose will lead you to feel better about yourself because you know you’re making decisions that are in line with your values and that you’re making strides toward doing the things that will help you to reach your goals. When you have purpose in your life, you have taken steps to declare what’s important to you and what matters most. That can be quite empowering, also leading to increased self-esteem. You’re living on your own terms, not ones determined by outside forces.

How to Develop Your Sense of Purpose

Developing your sense of purpose and discovering just what that is can be the tricky part. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to move that process along. Taking stock of what matters most to you and your priorities in life is a good start. As noted earlier, you can make a list of these things and look for patterns to guide your next steps. It’s also helpful to get out there and try new things. The more experiences and people you expose yourself to, the more likely you are to find something that speaks to you, aligns with your values, and influences your future decisions. If you’re not sure what you want to try, start with things that interest you or that you’ve considered trying in the past, then go from there. Keep in mind that you don’t have to settle for just one purpose. There could be multiple things that sustain your interest and push you forward each and every day.

This is just a short summary of what purpose is and how it contributes to confidence. Give the suggestions above a try and start seeking your own life’s purpose. Soon, you’ll find yourself living a life you love.

If you would like to join a group of purpose-driven women who are ready to support you on your journey, visit HBSquad.com. Tomorrow, I am showing you the powerful connection between confidence and self-love and believe me, you don’t want to miss it!

XOXO,

Ashley

Why It’s Important to Embrace Self-Love (Day #1 of Stop Your Inner Naysayer with Self Love Series)

Hello beautiful!

Throughout this month I am focusing on helping you grow your self-love and stop that little negative voice in your head that is constantly telling you that you aren’t good enough or that you don’t have what it takes to live the life you desire. I am dedicating this month to all things self-love. You’ll discover what self-love means and how to express it. We’ll also cover techniques for increasing your self-confidence and appreciation of yourself. There’s so much to consider with regard to learning to love yourself, and the benefits are numerous.

3-1-20 1Self-love is really a fairly simple concept. It refers to the ability to regard yourself positively in a variety of aspects. When you embrace self-love, you think highly of your appearance and body image, as well as mental and emotional characteristics. You accept yourself as you are, but you are also excited about growing and improving every day. Self-acceptance doesn’t rely on waiting until “someday” to start living and enjoying your own company.

There are so many benefits to self-love. When you truly love yourself, you’re more satisfied with your life. You’ll see that you have agency and are in charge of the ways in which you choose to respond to what happens to you. This also leads to greater self-esteem. You’ll have better relationships with others when you’re comfortable with yourself, too. That’s because you won’t be worried about or negatively affected by their opinion of you. You’ll also have the self-worth required to create boundaries and stand up for yourself when you’re not heavily invested in how others see you.

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Loving yourself makes self-care easier because you’ll understand that you deserve to expend energy, time, and resources on yourself as much as you do on others. You’ll also be more likely to pursue your goals with gusto when you view yourself as worthy of attaining them. When something negative does occur in your life, you’ll be better able to handle it due to your reserve of confidence. You’ll be more optimistic when facing hurdles instead of feeling overwhelmed and defeated.

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In addition to being able to handle obstacles more easily, self-love can help you to better handle rejection. If you’re turned down for a job or a date, you won’t feel as hurt because your identity and self-worth don’t depend on that outside influence. You’ll simply have improved life satisfaction in general when you learn to love yourself and to accept your own value.

Now that you have an idea of some of the benefits that come from loving yourself, you’re ready to move on and discover some ways to embrace the concept and make it a part of your everyday life. Each day that you practice self-love (and self-acceptance) , you’ll come closer to incorporating these values into your own life and feeling more comfortable with the belief that you’re as worthwhile as the people you take care of every day.

Stay tuned each day this month for more body positivity and self-love. There is no better time to grow who you are as a woman (from the inside out) than now. Make sure that you are following the conversation in my group HERE and follow my Instagram for more inspiration.

XOXO,

Ashley

10 Things To Do When You Hit Rock Bottom

Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to move ahead to the next level in your life. I am here to tell you that it is not a fun place to be in, but there are some things that you can do right now to help you get to the light at the end of the tunnel.

If you feel like you are in a rut and don’t know what to do next, here is a starting point.

1) Accept responsibility for where you are.

The decisions you made in the past somehow played a part in you being in the space you are in right now in your life. Own those decisions and understand where you went wrong so you don’t face those same lessons over and over again.

2) Let go of everything.

Sometime you have to shy away from everything to regain yourself back. Let go of the negative habits, the naysayers, the bad influences, and even your own negative thoughts. It won’t be easy, but it will damn well be worth it.

3) Stop playing the blame game.

Even if it wasn’t ALL your fault, you played a role in it. Even if it was just your reaction to something that happened, it still played a part. Even if you listened to your friend and things didn’t go right, you still played a part in it. You will NEVER move ahead in your life if you are constantly blaming others.

4) Use rock bottom as your foundation to rebuild.

You have a new opportunity, a second chance, to get it right. Build a strong foundation and you will weather any storm that comes. A weak foundation can seem stable for a while and when the littlest storm comes can crumble in an instant.

5) Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling.

It probably won’t feel good and it may even hurt a bit, but when you allow yourself to feel, you allow yourself to start healing. When you mask your feeling they only get worse and even unbearable.

6) Make peace with where you are.

I am not saying accept where you are and get comfortable, but I am saying embrace the space in your life where you are at this moment and acknowledge that you are working to grow and move to a better space.

7) Stop comparing yourself to everyone else.

Few people live up to the Fasad they portray on social media. While you are comparing yourself to someone else’s end, that exact point may only be your starting point, but you feel you are behind or not enough because you are not there yet. Your journey is your journey….and no one else can compare to that.

8) Stop closing yourself off from others.

A solid support system will help you stay motivated and accountable.

9) Realize this darkness won’t least forever.

There is light at the end of the tunnel. This is just a page in the book of your life, it’s time to turn the page.

10) Recreate your life.

So what your life in the past went to hell. This is a new chapter a blank page…What are you going to fill it with?

This blog post comes straight from my YouTube video that goes more in-depth on each of these ways you can start rebuilding your life from rock bottom up. Watch the video here…

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#METOO – My Story of Being Sexually Assaulted

#METOO – It happened when I was 14. He was a deacon of the church I grew up in and still attended regularly. He was well known in the community. He assisted in church and was at some youth group activities. He tried to rape me with my grandmother and his wife in another room of the house. I fought like hell to get away from him as he was literally trying to rip my clothes off of my body. He touched me in places that weren’t for him to touch. His saliva still wet on my shirt after I finally got away from him by literally digging my nails into his hand with every bit of my might. I had never even kissed a boy, yet this grown man in less than 10 minutes tried to take every bit of my innocence away.

I spoke up and told my mom and my grandma only because my grandma heard him scream as I was running away from him and she made me call my mom. From the police to the church, I felt like they made him the victim and I was the perpetrator. His wife said I was lying and that her husband was an honorable man that would never do anything like that. The police and church both asked what I did to provoke it. I felt dirty like something was wrong with me. I started thinking that it was my fault, like somehow or someway I caused it. I stopped going to church for a long time because they still allowed him to attend there. Apparently being a high up deacon at the church somehow made him not accountable for his actions and it made him immune to any repercussions. The 14 year old girl who loved church and was in everything from youth group and Sunday School to Bible Drill and Choir who felt like church was a safe haven and place where she could go to worship God now felt it was a place of pain, destruction, abandonment and lies. I already felt like I didn’t have a voice from the bullying I experienced growing up and this made me close off myself even more from the world. I felt like no one cared to listen. I didn’t matter. This experience caused deep self-hatred for many years and made me resent churches. It took me years to go back to one. This wasn’t my only experience being sexually assaulted or harrassed, but it is the one that had the most impact on me.

I share my story because I want other women to not feel so alone because it can feel really lonely . Here are 3 things I learned from being sexually assaulted:

1.) It is not your fault. Do not let anyone (including yourself) try to turn it around on you. Your body is the body God gave you and someone forcing access to it is them in the wrong. You did not “deserve” what happened to you. You are not to blame.

2.) Your experience can help others (and the process can help you begin to heal yourself). For years after feeling like it was my fault, I refused to talk about it. I hid it deep within me praying and wishing it would just “be erased” from the timeline of my life. It didn’t go away. Not sharing it made it embed even deeper within me and led to depression and self-hatred. When I decided to finally speak up, I found that I was not alone and sharing my story and the release it gave me led to me creating platforms to help other women share their stories (from bullying to sexual assault to overcoming divorce and illness). Everything I have gone through in my life has prepared me for what I am doing now with the #IAmSimplyBeautiful Movement and Fearless Poets.

3. There is life on the other side. In that moment, you may have felt like your life was over and you just wanted to die or for everything to just go away, but you still have your life. Life will continue on. Sometimes you may have to pause and that is okay, but know that this is not the end of your story. God is not done with you yet.

Please #Share this because someone you know needs this and if it is you, know that whether or not you are ready to share your story at this moment in your life, your story matters and YOU matter. You are enough just as you are. I turned my mess into my message and so can you. You are stronger than you know and you are simply beautiful just as you are. Period. Your story is still being written…

#IAmSimplyBeautiful #SexualAssault #SelfLove #YouAreEnough #NotYourFault