Start Your Day by Focusing on Gratitude and Positivity (DAY #24 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Gratitude is an underrated virtue. Feeling thankful for the wonderful things in your life can do a lot to improve your mood and your view of yourself. It’s easy to forget all the blessings in our lives when things get difficult or when our inner naysayer is being particularly loud. Taking time to remember the good things can bring an entirely new and positive perspective to a negative situation. Starting your day by focusing on gratitude and positivity is a practice that can have a tremendous effect on every aspect of your day.

Giving thanks can get you started on the right foot. You’ll leave the house feeling more optimistic and content than you would otherwise. That feeling can last throughout the day, and it can also serve to insulate you from any stress or obstacles you encounter in your regular routine. Let’s consider some easy ways to get started each day with a practice of gratitude and positivity.

Start a Journal

A gratitude journal is one of the easiest ways to keep your blessings at hand. Start your day by writing down three to five things you’re grateful for in your life. You can expand upon that and write details about each, if you choose. This simple act starts your day on a positive note. You can also look back at past entries any time you need a pick-me-up about just how great your life is.

Repeat Affirmations

Affirmations are concise, positive sentences. Usually, they’re personal statements about yourself and your life. Affirmations are meant as a reminder of your gifts and abilities. They’re an awesome tool for reminding yourself just how wonderful you are as a person. You can really boost your self-confidence with this effective practice. Create an affirmation and repeat it out loud several times. Soon, you’ll absorb the message and carry it with you as you go about your day.

Reflect on Your Blessings

Sometimes, just sitting in quiet contemplation to reflect on your blessings can be enough. This type of meditation focuses your thoughts and grounds you in mindfulness. It’s a way of centering yourself and purposefully beginning your day with gratitude and positivity. Sitting with a cup of tea in a quiet place is sufficient, or you can choose a more formal meditation position of sitting on a pillow placed upon the floor. It doesn’t matter, as long as you have privacy and can be alone with your thoughts.

Keep these techniques in mind if you’re looking for a way to begin each morning with purpose and to guide your day in gratitude. You’ll notice a shift in your attitude and in the ways in which you manage obstacles you encounter. Problems won’t seem as significant when you create a morning ritual such as this.

See you back here tomorrow where I will be talking about failure and mistakes and how they are a key component to your success!

XOXO,

Ashley

It’s Ok to Ask for Help in Defusing Your Inner Naysayer (DAY #23 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi Beautiful! 🙂

Shutting up that inner critic can be hard. You’ve learned some great strategies so far on our journey together. However, these tactics are all things you must do on your own. Sometimes, pushing past your negative self-talk requires some help. Seeking assistance from an outside source doesn’t make you weak. In fact, you’ll probably find it strengthens you and possibly even some of your relationships, too.

We don’t always see ourselves as others see us. It’s particularly easy to overlook our positive qualities. When your inner critic is bombarding you with negative messages, it may take an outside perspective to help you see the reality of a situation. You might not be able to get the push you need on your own. There’s no shame in asking for help.

There are lots of ways to look outside yourself when it comes to shutting down your inner critic. Take a look below for some strategies. It’s important to understand that it’s okay to ask for help in defusing your inner naysayer.

Consult a Trusted Friend

Reach out to friends or even family that you trust. Those who know you best can offer you honest feedback when you’re feeling unsure about things. Ask someone who will be honest, yet sensitive, in their approach. This way, you’ll be sure they’re not just trying to be nice. These types of folks can provide you with a realistic view of you and your situation, helping you to make an informed decision about your next steps.

Seek Therapy

Your inner critic has probably been around your whole life. There are a number of complex reasons for our negative self-talk. Sometimes working through these issues requires the help of a professional. Seeking therapy is a great way to start to see for yourself what is real and what has been falsely ingrained throughout your life. When you begin to work through these deep-seated issues, you start to heal and to see your own value.

Do Some Reading

If you truly aren’t ready to talk to others about your self-criticism, it’s okay. A good place to start is by researching the issues you’re facing. For example, if you’re regularly telling yourself that you can’t achieve great things or that you’re not enough, do some research on self-confidence. Read books and blog posts that can show you how to gain more of it. If your internal messages tell you it’s not safe to trust others, read up on the topic of building trust. You get the idea. Take note of any patterns coming from your inner naysayer and then search for resources to help you defeat them.

These tips should help you find help overcoming your inner critic. Sometimes it’s not possible to work through these negative messages on your own. It’s perfectly acceptable to look for help.

Join me in the HB SQUAD group where a community of ladies are waiting to support you on your journey toward self-love and manifesting the life you desire! See you in the group and meet me back here tomorrow to talk about gratitude.

The Power of Positive Pep Talks (DAY #15 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We’ve discussed your inner naysayer and how to manage it. That little voice inside your head tries to protect you by telling you negative things. Sometimes, it’s possible that it could be your intuition keeping you safe. Often, it’s merely a defense mechanism holding you back from bigger things. One of the best and most positive ways to drown out your inner critic, overcome fear, and move forward in your life is to reframe those negative messages into more positive and realistic ones. There’s nothing like the power of pep talks to help give you the confidence you need to embrace self-love. Read on to learn how these affirmations work and why you should be giving yourself pep talks on a regular basis.

Benefits of Pep Talks

Positive pep talks can totally turn a bad day around or help to give you confidence to pursue something that’s intimidating. They can help you to see yourself in a different light and improve your mood. By reframing your negative thinking, you’re breaking a pattern that leads to stagnation and negativity. Instead of failing to venture forward, take a chance, or try something new, giving yourself a pep talk can help to remind yourself that you’re a worthwhile person who is capable of great things. Positive self-talk can interrupt a damaging cycle of self-defeating thinking to help you push past negative emotions like fear and insecurity.

How They Work

There are lots of ways you can give yourself a positive pep talk. They don’t have to be grandiose gestures, either. If you’re uncomfortable with heaping praise on yourself, something as simple as writing a list of your positive qualities can help immensely. This is also a good way to gain confidence and momentum toward learning to give yourself bigger pep talks. Some people might actually like the idea of giving themselves a proper pep talk in front of a mirror, looking at their reflection and talking to it as they would a good friend. This is an excellent option. If you’re in a public place and need a pick-me-up, taking a moment to silently remind yourself of your positive qualities and abilities can be a fine way of pushing past your inner naysayer.

Pep Talks and Self-Love

The very act of giving yourself a pep talk is an act of self-love. It’s purposefully taking time to focus on your worth and to say positive things about yourself. It helps boost confidence. Pep talks serve as a reminder of all the good things you have to offer. The better you become at boosting yourself up when things get tough or when the negative self-talk is too much, the easier it will become. Before long, you’ll notice that you automatically feel worthy and confident enough in yourself to manage the negative messages that come your way.

Give it a try. Practice giving yourself positive pep talks to see what a difference it makes in your life and how it impacts the self-love you’re able to express. WATCH MY VIDEO WITH 25 SUCCESS AFFIRMATIONS for ideas on affirmations you can say to yourself to reprogram your mindset.

Each week we have amazing women going live at HBSQUAD.COM to help you with your mindset, pursuing your passion and helping you create the life you desire. Join us over there and grab a pen and paper because tomorrow we are talking about journaling your way to self-love.

XOXO,

Ashley