What You May Be Missing if You Listen to That Inner Naysayer (DAY #20 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We’ve discovered that your inner naysayer is usually trying to protect you from something with its negative messages. Sometimes this presents itself as your intuition or gut protecting you from real harm, and you should learn to identify this voice and listen to it. Most often, however, your inner critic is acting in a defensive way to keep your ego from getting bruised. It can truly hold you back from having some great experiences. That’s when you really want to employ strategies to manage that nagging voice.

You’ve learned a number of ways to recognize and deal with your negative self-talk. Today, we’ll cover one more. Examining the things this inner dialogue is keeping you from can push you forward and help you to overcome the damaging effects of that little voice. Take a look below to learn how you can focus on what you may be missing when you listen to your inner naysayer. Once you know what’s at stake, you’ll be more apt to take positive actions that can lead to tremendous personal reward.

What You’re Protecting

When you give in to your inner naysayer, you are protecting yourself from a number of things. You can avoid hurt or embarrassment if you decide not to try something new. Avoiding risks rewards you with a feeling of safety. You protect yourself from rejection, failure, or vulnerability. It’s very tempting to give into your inner critic. It can feel much safer to simply not try than to put yourself out there. It’s self-protection.

What You’re Missing

Listening to that inner critic can feel like such a relief. It takes the pressure off and saves you from trying something hard. However, it can also keep you from experiencing something great. It also often leaves you with the regret of what could have been. Instead, learning to recognize and push past your inner naysayer can bring you rewards beyond your imagination. Think of the friendships, romances, career successes, passions, and novelties you can experience if you silence that critic and do the thing.

What You Have to Gain

You have so many amazing things to gain by ignoring your inner naysayer. Beyond the wonderful experiences, you’ll gain confidence and self-esteem. The more you practice ignoring your negative self-talk, the easier it will become. You’ll soon notice you have the confidence to try more things because you’ve learned that you can do it and the world doesn’t end. You’ll have more fun, meet more people, try new things, and just feel better about yourself when you learn to overcome that inner naysayer.

Keep these tips in mind the next time self-doubt tries to hold you back. Do it, anyway. Then, see how good you feel. 🙂 Tomorrow, I will be talking about what being brave really means. If you would like more inspiration and support, visit HBSQUAD.com. See you on the inside!

XOXO,

Ashley

5 Life Changing “I Am” Affirmations (VIDEO)

“I Am” Affirmations are the most powerful statements that you can recite over yourself on a daily basis. They train your subconscious mind to either have positive or negative beliefs about yourself. In this video, I give you 5 “I Am” statements and break them down to why reciting them daily will change your life. This is a new decade and it is time to decide to be a better version of yourself daily going forward. This is the season to uplevel who you are. Take a pen and write these down somewhere where you will see them every day. Whether you believe them or not now, the more you see and say them, the more you are training your subconscious mind to believe them. #HustleBeautiful

WATCH THE VIDEO HERE —->https://youtu.be/V8Fd_JsbL0M

10 Things To Do When You Hit Rock Bottom

Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to move ahead to the next level in your life. I am here to tell you that it is not a fun place to be in, but there are some things that you can do right now to help you get to the light at the end of the tunnel.

If you feel like you are in a rut and don’t know what to do next, here is a starting point.

1) Accept responsibility for where you are.

The decisions you made in the past somehow played a part in you being in the space you are in right now in your life. Own those decisions and understand where you went wrong so you don’t face those same lessons over and over again.

2) Let go of everything.

Sometime you have to shy away from everything to regain yourself back. Let go of the negative habits, the naysayers, the bad influences, and even your own negative thoughts. It won’t be easy, but it will damn well be worth it.

3) Stop playing the blame game.

Even if it wasn’t ALL your fault, you played a role in it. Even if it was just your reaction to something that happened, it still played a part. Even if you listened to your friend and things didn’t go right, you still played a part in it. You will NEVER move ahead in your life if you are constantly blaming others.

4) Use rock bottom as your foundation to rebuild.

You have a new opportunity, a second chance, to get it right. Build a strong foundation and you will weather any storm that comes. A weak foundation can seem stable for a while and when the littlest storm comes can crumble in an instant.

5) Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling.

It probably won’t feel good and it may even hurt a bit, but when you allow yourself to feel, you allow yourself to start healing. When you mask your feeling they only get worse and even unbearable.

6) Make peace with where you are.

I am not saying accept where you are and get comfortable, but I am saying embrace the space in your life where you are at this moment and acknowledge that you are working to grow and move to a better space.

7) Stop comparing yourself to everyone else.

Few people live up to the Fasad they portray on social media. While you are comparing yourself to someone else’s end, that exact point may only be your starting point, but you feel you are behind or not enough because you are not there yet. Your journey is your journey….and no one else can compare to that.

8) Stop closing yourself off from others.

A solid support system will help you stay motivated and accountable.

9) Realize this darkness won’t least forever.

There is light at the end of the tunnel. This is just a page in the book of your life, it’s time to turn the page.

10) Recreate your life.

So what your life in the past went to hell. This is a new chapter a blank page…What are you going to fill it with?

This blog post comes straight from my YouTube video that goes more in-depth on each of these ways you can start rebuilding your life from rock bottom up. Watch the video here…

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