Try a Social Media Fast for an Instant Confidence and Happiness Boost (DAY #22 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi Beautiful!

Social media can be a great way to stay connected with friends and family. Unfortunately, it can also be a toxic environment that leads many of us to feel bad about ourselves. It can also be a place of divisiveness and arguments. Taking charge of your social media use can be quite empowering and lead you to a feeling of well-being. Taking a complete break from Facebook, Twitter, and other sites can really do you some good, especially if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by it all lately. Read on to discover why you might want to try a social media fast for an instant confidence and happiness boost.

About a Social Media Fast

A social media fast is simply choosing to stay away from social media for a certain period of time. It can be a week, a month, or even a year. Perhaps more if that’s what you feel you need. There are lots of reasons for taking a break from Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. These sites are often places where people talk about their happy times, hiding any stressful events or difficulties they’re having. It can also be a place for bragging and overselling how well one is doing. If there are people in your social media feeds whose lives seem too perfect, it can lead to comparison or insecurity for you. It’s also easy to get caught up in social media, spending much of your free time there and checking it all the time. If you’re feeling overwhelmed with social media and missing out on more important things, it may be time to take a break.

Benefits of a Social Media Detox

When you walk away from social media, you’re removing yourself from the temptation to compare. You can focus on the good that’s in your own life and on pursuing your personal goals. There’s no need to compete with outside ideals on a regular basis, and you may find that your peace of mind improves. You also lose the fear of missing out. Instead of worrying about what others are doing, you can begin to seek out your own opportunities for fun and entertainment. You’ll have more time to reconnect with people who are important to you in real life, as well as to pursue your other interests.

How to Get Started

There are lots of ways to take on a social media fast. You can go cold turkey and just drop it completely. It’s also possible to start by removing toxic people from your feed, either by unfollowing or hiding them. Perhaps you want to ease into it by limiting access to social media to just one device or checking it only in the morning. Turning off notifications so you’re not constantly being called to check in is good. So is choosing just one app to use and eliminating the rest.

Taking a break from social media can be good for your self-esteem and contribute to a greater sense of self-love. Give it a try and let me know if you experience any breakthroughs on your fast.

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What You May Be Missing if You Listen to That Inner Naysayer (DAY #20 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We’ve discovered that your inner naysayer is usually trying to protect you from something with its negative messages. Sometimes this presents itself as your intuition or gut protecting you from real harm, and you should learn to identify this voice and listen to it. Most often, however, your inner critic is acting in a defensive way to keep your ego from getting bruised. It can truly hold you back from having some great experiences. That’s when you really want to employ strategies to manage that nagging voice.

You’ve learned a number of ways to recognize and deal with your negative self-talk. Today, we’ll cover one more. Examining the things this inner dialogue is keeping you from can push you forward and help you to overcome the damaging effects of that little voice. Take a look below to learn how you can focus on what you may be missing when you listen to your inner naysayer. Once you know what’s at stake, you’ll be more apt to take positive actions that can lead to tremendous personal reward.

What You’re Protecting

When you give in to your inner naysayer, you are protecting yourself from a number of things. You can avoid hurt or embarrassment if you decide not to try something new. Avoiding risks rewards you with a feeling of safety. You protect yourself from rejection, failure, or vulnerability. It’s very tempting to give into your inner critic. It can feel much safer to simply not try than to put yourself out there. It’s self-protection.

What You’re Missing

Listening to that inner critic can feel like such a relief. It takes the pressure off and saves you from trying something hard. However, it can also keep you from experiencing something great. It also often leaves you with the regret of what could have been. Instead, learning to recognize and push past your inner naysayer can bring you rewards beyond your imagination. Think of the friendships, romances, career successes, passions, and novelties you can experience if you silence that critic and do the thing.

What You Have to Gain

You have so many amazing things to gain by ignoring your inner naysayer. Beyond the wonderful experiences, you’ll gain confidence and self-esteem. The more you practice ignoring your negative self-talk, the easier it will become. You’ll soon notice you have the confidence to try more things because you’ve learned that you can do it and the world doesn’t end. You’ll have more fun, meet more people, try new things, and just feel better about yourself when you learn to overcome that inner naysayer.

Keep these tips in mind the next time self-doubt tries to hold you back. Do it, anyway. Then, see how good you feel. 🙂 Tomorrow, I will be talking about what being brave really means. If you would like more inspiration and support, visit HBSQUAD.com. See you on the inside!

XOXO,

Ashley

The Power of Positive Pep Talks (DAY #15 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We’ve discussed your inner naysayer and how to manage it. That little voice inside your head tries to protect you by telling you negative things. Sometimes, it’s possible that it could be your intuition keeping you safe. Often, it’s merely a defense mechanism holding you back from bigger things. One of the best and most positive ways to drown out your inner critic, overcome fear, and move forward in your life is to reframe those negative messages into more positive and realistic ones. There’s nothing like the power of pep talks to help give you the confidence you need to embrace self-love. Read on to learn how these affirmations work and why you should be giving yourself pep talks on a regular basis.

Benefits of Pep Talks

Positive pep talks can totally turn a bad day around or help to give you confidence to pursue something that’s intimidating. They can help you to see yourself in a different light and improve your mood. By reframing your negative thinking, you’re breaking a pattern that leads to stagnation and negativity. Instead of failing to venture forward, take a chance, or try something new, giving yourself a pep talk can help to remind yourself that you’re a worthwhile person who is capable of great things. Positive self-talk can interrupt a damaging cycle of self-defeating thinking to help you push past negative emotions like fear and insecurity.

How They Work

There are lots of ways you can give yourself a positive pep talk. They don’t have to be grandiose gestures, either. If you’re uncomfortable with heaping praise on yourself, something as simple as writing a list of your positive qualities can help immensely. This is also a good way to gain confidence and momentum toward learning to give yourself bigger pep talks. Some people might actually like the idea of giving themselves a proper pep talk in front of a mirror, looking at their reflection and talking to it as they would a good friend. This is an excellent option. If you’re in a public place and need a pick-me-up, taking a moment to silently remind yourself of your positive qualities and abilities can be a fine way of pushing past your inner naysayer.

Pep Talks and Self-Love

The very act of giving yourself a pep talk is an act of self-love. It’s purposefully taking time to focus on your worth and to say positive things about yourself. It helps boost confidence. Pep talks serve as a reminder of all the good things you have to offer. The better you become at boosting yourself up when things get tough or when the negative self-talk is too much, the easier it will become. Before long, you’ll notice that you automatically feel worthy and confident enough in yourself to manage the negative messages that come your way.

Give it a try. Practice giving yourself positive pep talks to see what a difference it makes in your life and how it impacts the self-love you’re able to express. WATCH MY VIDEO WITH 25 SUCCESS AFFIRMATIONS for ideas on affirmations you can say to yourself to reprogram your mindset.

Each week we have amazing women going live at HBSQUAD.COM to help you with your mindset, pursuing your passion and helping you create the life you desire. Join us over there and grab a pen and paper because tomorrow we are talking about journaling your way to self-love.

XOXO,

Ashley

How to Practice Self-Love Daily(DAY #11 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hello Beautiful 🙂

Yesterday, we talked about how to recognize your inner naysayer when it pops up in your mind. I hope it helped you to identify the reasons why it is so important and ways for you to manage it. Self-love is needed, but oftentimes we forget to or don’t know how to practice it.

By now, you should have a fairly good idea of what self-love is and why it’s important. You know that confidence and self-awareness are essential components of loving yourself. What you might be wondering is how to start practicing self-love on a regular basis so that you can begin to internalize new messages and rid yourself of that pesky naysayer once and for all. Fortunately, there are some steps you can take to cultivate self-love on a regular basis. Take a look.

Focus on the Here and Now

Too often, we find ourselves looking at the past with longing or waiting for someday. It’s hard to love yourself and your life when you don’t appreciate what you have in the moment. Centering yourself on the present, being mindful, and practicing gratitude are quick ways to cultivate an appreciation for what you have right now.

Work on Your Goals

Setting goals that reflect your values will help you to feel you’re living a life of purpose. You’ll know you’re taking real steps toward growing as a person when you’re regularly doing things that will bring you closer to your desires. Proactively using your time rather than just absent-mindedly going with the flow and putting out fires is quite empowering.

Set Boundaries

Boundaries are an important part of self-care. Setting boundaries means you put yourself and your needs first sometimes. This is a healthy approach to life and ensures you have the energy to take care of the things that matter. Saying no to toxic relationships and unnecessary obligations will free your spirit and keep you from becoming burnt out.

Take Care of Yourself

It can be hard to take time for yourself in this busy world full of obligations. This is especially true when you’ve gotten in the habit of putting yourself last on the list. To experience true self-love, you need to start giving yourself higher priority. You can do this by eating well, exercising, taking time for a hobby, pampering yourself, or any other activity that focuses on your wellbeing.

Forgive Yourself

Most of all, you must learn to forgive yourself to truly love yourself. We all make mistakes. It’s a part of the human condition. Some of those mistakes will be serious and life altering. Allowing yourself understanding and care regarding those things will show you that you’re still worthy despite your faults. This is a crucial lesson on the road to embracing self-love.

These are just a handful of examples of some ways you can easily begin the practice of self-love. If even this many strategies seems overwhelming, feel free to begin trying just a couple. This is a process that takes time, effort, and practice.

If you would like a community to help keep you accountable on your journey to becoming a better you everyday, then head on over to the #HBSquad Group. Tomorrow, we are going to be talking about how to practice self-love without adapting the traits of a narcissist. See you then!

XOXO,

Ashley

How to recognize when your inner naysayer pops up (DAY #10 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi beautiful! We are 1/3 of the way through this series today! 20 Days left! How are you feeling? Tweet me and let me know.

Yesterday, I gave you ways to tell if you should listen to your inner naysayer and today I am going to give you some tips on how to recognize when your inner naysayer shows up.

As you’ve discovered in our time together, your inner naysayer can present itself in several ways. Often, it shows up as a negative voice that keeps you from moving toward your goals or trying something new. Sometimes, though, it can be helpful and clue you in that something isn’t quite right. Regardless, your inner naysayer is usually trying to protect you in some way. What’s most important is acting in a positive and proactive way when you receive these internal messages, whether they’re useful or detrimental. In order to take action that benefits you, you’ll first need to recognize your inner naysayer when it pipes up. Keep reading to learn how to do just that.

Why You Need to Recognize Your Inner Naysayer

Chances are you’ve been living with your inner naysayer for as long as you can remember. That means it’s likely that you are so used to hearing it in your head that you probably don’t even notice it. That’s bad news. If you don’t recognize your inner critic, you can’t deal with it. Without recognizing it and addressing it, you’re simply reacting to it – acting on autopilot. Giving in to your reactions or acting in habitual ways can be harmful because you’re not fully in charge when that happens. Instead, your negative emotions are guiding you. You’re not making an informed decision. Therefore, you probably won’t achieve the results you truly desire. In order to take purposeful action and take control of your life, you need to recognize and deal with your inner naysayer.

How to Recognize Your Inner Naysayer

Your inner naysayer can be sneaky. It usually comes around when you’re about to do something important, so keep that in mind. When something is good for your growth, but perhaps a bit out of your comfort zone, your inner critic might pipe up to keep you from taking that risk. It also might come around when you’re feeling fearful or unsure. It also likes to rear its head when you really want something.

Pay attention and listen for messages like these in order to recognize your inner naysayer:

  • I don’t deserve good things.
  • I’ll mess it up.
  • It’s too hard.
  • I’m too old.
  • I’m not smart enough.
  • Good things never happen for me.
  • It’s selfish to want that.
  • I don’t have what it takes.
  • I’m not that talented.
  • Someone else is better than me.
  • I’m no good at that.
  • I’m too fat.
  • I’m not pretty enough.

Self-doubt is frequently connected to these types of messages. While it’s normal to wonder if you have what it takes to achieve something new, these types of messages can truly sabotage your success.

Steps to Manage Your Inner Naysayer

There are ways to manage your inner naysayer. Take note of the types of messages you tell yourself most often. Then watch for what triggers those messages. Recognizing those triggers can help you to take control of the situation instead of giving into the negative self-talk. It’s also helpful to try to figure out where these messages came from. Others may have told you things in the past, and you’ve internalized these beliefs as your own. Knowing how you developed these thoughts will help you to look at them more realistically. Finally, once you have a realistic handle on these words, turn them around into something more positive. Tell yourself a message that is based in reality and that encourages you, rather than discourages you.

Your inner naysayer has been around for a long time, but it doesn’t have to be in charge of you. It is possible to overcome its negative effects. With practice, you’ll soon be able to recognize your inner naysayer and manage its messages.

Join the conversation at hbsquad.com and connect with me on Twitter. Tomorrow is a very important day in this series as I will be giving you ways to practice self-love daily…See you then!

XOXO,

Ashley

SHould you listen to or ignore your inner naysayer? (DAY #9 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We are almost 10 days in which means we are almost 1/3 done this series and I hope you are learning a lot about yourself and are focusing on growing as a woman as each day passes. Yesterday, I talked about how important it is to realize that YOU ARE NOT A LABEL. Today, I am going to begin the conversation around that negative little voice in your head and whether or not you should be listening…

No matter how much you’ve internalized the concept of self-love, you probably still have an inner naysayer nagging at you. That inner voice that is constantly giving us messages is there for nearly everyone. Your inner naysayer can often be quite a pest, telling you all sorts of negative things that hurt your self-esteem and make you second-guess yourself. But sometimes that voice can be useful. Let’s take a look at when you should listen to your inner naysayer and when you should ignore it.

About Your Inner Naysayer

Your inner naysayer can be due to a lot of different things. Regardless of its purpose, it’s your inner voice that is trying to tell you something or guide you. The name “naysayer” implies negativity. Therefore, the things this voice has to say are usually negative in nature. Each person’s inner naysayer is unique. The messages they give are based upon your own individual life experience and personality. Your inner naysayer is trying to protect you in most cases, even if that protection ends up hindering you or limiting you in some way.

When to Listen

Sometimes you should take heed when you hear your inner naysayer giving you a message. In order to know whether the message is helpful or not, it’s important to take time to dissect it. Ask yourself some questions. Is it realistic? Is it helpful? Is it true? If the answer to these questions is yes, you should listen. For example, you may want to go on a date with someone new, but you keep having nagging thoughts telling you to stay home. Sit quietly and think about the reasons your inner voice is telling you not to go out with this person. If you see red flags or feel this person isn’t being truthful, listen to your gut. It’s there to protect you physically and emotionally.

When Not to Listen

Often times, we let negative messages that others have given us stick with us through life. We may internalize them as our own and adopt them as self-defeating beliefs. Let’s explore the above date scenario further. Your inner naysayer is telling you not to go out with your potential date. Why is it saying that? If it’s because you’re not attractive enough or smart enough for them, that’s likely insecurity talking. Go on the date and give it a shot. Don’t let your insecurities win out.

Your inner naysayer is usually there to protect you. Perhaps it’s acting as a defense mechanism and repeating insecurities you’ve internalized about yourself. Maybe it’s a warning from your gut reminding you to heed red flags. Take time to listen to your inner naysayer before deciding how to act. You’ll know whether to give in or not.

If you are loving this series, let me know. Connect with me on Twitter, Facebook, & Instagram and join our community of amazing women at hbsquad.com. Tomorrow is day 10 and I will help you recognize when your naysayer pops up in your head.