Practice Helps You Get Better at Being Brave (DAY #21 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi Beautiful!!!!

We’ve been talking a lot about your inner naysayer because many people don’t want to talk about it. This his pesky little voice can cause you big problems throughout your life if you don’t get a handle on it. It can hold you back and keep you from experiencing great things. Staying in your comfort zone is a symptom of listening to that negative self-talk. You’ll find your world expands a great deal when you get a handle on your inner critic.

Breaking free of your inner naysayer and stepping outside of your comfort zone gets easier with practice. Courage isn’t something that comes easily to many of us. However, you can gain more of it with practice. Take a look below to get some ideas of ways in which practice helps you get better at being brave. Your confidence and self-love will soar once you start implementing these strategies into your daily life.

Try Something New Each Day

Tackling one new thing each day is a great way to get used to being brave on a regular basis. Even the smallest new thing inches you further out of your comfort zone than you were the day before. Before long, you’ll gain momentum and you’ll be trying even bigger things. Soon, it will be much easier to move past your comfort zone.

Tackle a Phobia

Something that might be a bit tougher is facing a phobia. It doesn’t have to be a big phobia that causes you real fear. Something like that might be best managed with a professional therapist. However, facing a manageable fear you’ve been avoiding is something most of us can handle safely on our own. Pick up the phone and make a call if you usually avoid talking on the telephone. Go on that roller coaster with your child. Whatever you try, you’ll feel a real sense of accomplishment once it’s done.

Stand for a Cause

Speaking out for something you believe in can be a great way to stretch those bravery muscles. It can be intimidating to put yourself on a limb, especially if important people in your life might disagree. Standing up for something you feel is important can be a real confidence booster. It also shows great integrity.

Learn to Say No

Saying no is something that seems quite simple. However, for many, it’s one of the hardest things in the world. Setting any kind of boundary can be tough. This is definitely a good practice if you want to cultivate self-love. It can also be a real show of bravery to learn to say no and set limits with your time and energy. You don’t have to please everyone, and you’ll be so much happier when you’ve reclaimed your time.

Give a few of these strategies a try if you want to get better at being brave. You’ll see your confidence soar, and you’ll be setting a good example for those around you.

Join me and a group of 2000+ phenomenal women in the HB SQUAD group and tomorrow I am talking about how a social media fast can truly help you connect with yourself at a deeper level. \

XOXO,

Ashley

What You May Be Missing if You Listen to That Inner Naysayer (DAY #20 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We’ve discovered that your inner naysayer is usually trying to protect you from something with its negative messages. Sometimes this presents itself as your intuition or gut protecting you from real harm, and you should learn to identify this voice and listen to it. Most often, however, your inner critic is acting in a defensive way to keep your ego from getting bruised. It can truly hold you back from having some great experiences. That’s when you really want to employ strategies to manage that nagging voice.

You’ve learned a number of ways to recognize and deal with your negative self-talk. Today, we’ll cover one more. Examining the things this inner dialogue is keeping you from can push you forward and help you to overcome the damaging effects of that little voice. Take a look below to learn how you can focus on what you may be missing when you listen to your inner naysayer. Once you know what’s at stake, you’ll be more apt to take positive actions that can lead to tremendous personal reward.

What You’re Protecting

When you give in to your inner naysayer, you are protecting yourself from a number of things. You can avoid hurt or embarrassment if you decide not to try something new. Avoiding risks rewards you with a feeling of safety. You protect yourself from rejection, failure, or vulnerability. It’s very tempting to give into your inner critic. It can feel much safer to simply not try than to put yourself out there. It’s self-protection.

What You’re Missing

Listening to that inner critic can feel like such a relief. It takes the pressure off and saves you from trying something hard. However, it can also keep you from experiencing something great. It also often leaves you with the regret of what could have been. Instead, learning to recognize and push past your inner naysayer can bring you rewards beyond your imagination. Think of the friendships, romances, career successes, passions, and novelties you can experience if you silence that critic and do the thing.

What You Have to Gain

You have so many amazing things to gain by ignoring your inner naysayer. Beyond the wonderful experiences, you’ll gain confidence and self-esteem. The more you practice ignoring your negative self-talk, the easier it will become. You’ll soon notice you have the confidence to try more things because you’ve learned that you can do it and the world doesn’t end. You’ll have more fun, meet more people, try new things, and just feel better about yourself when you learn to overcome that inner naysayer.

Keep these tips in mind the next time self-doubt tries to hold you back. Do it, anyway. Then, see how good you feel. 🙂 Tomorrow, I will be talking about what being brave really means. If you would like more inspiration and support, visit HBSQUAD.com. See you on the inside!

XOXO,

Ashley

Practice Mindfulness to Feel Better About Yourself (DAY #19 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi Beautiful!

You may have heard of the practice of mindfulness. It’s become all the rage in new age philosophy. And for good reason. This simple concept can deliver powerful results. Mindfulness is really just being aware of yourself and your emotions in the present moment. It involves bringing your thoughts back to the present when they begin to wander, much like meditation.

Mindfulness is knowing where your attention lies. You can use this concept when you discover that your inner naysayer is sending you negative messages. You’ve learned some strategies for recognizing this inner critic. One other way to overcome it is to use mindfulness to manage these thoughts once you recognize them.

Countering your own negative self-talk immediately in the moment with mindfulness is an effective way to deal with it. By managing these messages, you’ll gradually increase your self-esteem. Read on to discover some ways to use mindfulness to feel better about yourself.

Use Visualization

Visualization is a way of helping to make your positive thoughts a reality. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, counter them with a vision of things going well. Try to include details in that vision, such as what you’re wearing, your surroundings, and even how you feel. Doing this practice routinely has been shown to actually rewire your brain to act as though your vision were actually happening. Over time, you’ll begin to gain the self-confidence you have in your vision.

Examine Your Thoughts

Actually taking time in the moment to examine and counter your negative thoughts is a powerful act of mindfulness. Ask yourself questions about the negative self-talk you just heard. Analyze it. Try to discover its roots or meanings. Getting to the bottom of these messages and their resulting feelings as they’re happening can help you to give them the boot and replace them with kinder thoughts.

Take Risks

Being mindful can also mean being proactive in your actions. Deciding in the moment to try something new or push past your fear to take a risk is a fantastic way to feel more secure in your abilities. You’ll gain lots of strides the more you practice taking risks, so give it a shot today. Feel free to start small and increase your reach over time.

Acknowledge What You’re Doing Right

Counter your thoughts about what an awful person you are or what you’re doing wrong with an acknowledgement of what you’re doing right. There’s always something good about yourself you can note if you dig deep. This will get easier with time, so don’t feel like you have to immediately heap tons of praise upon yourself. Try just taking note of one small thing you’ve done right today to offset the self-critical thought you’re having. Then, see how much lighter your mood feels.

Give these tricks a try when you find yourself succumbing to your inner naysayer. Using mindfulness practices can be a very effective way to overcome your inner naysayer and feel better about yourself.

Join us at HBSQUAD.com for accountability and support and tomorrow you will learn all that you will be missing if you listen to your inner naysayer.

XOXO,

Ashley

How Self-Love Can Reduce Stress and Anxiety (DAY #14 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi Beautiful!

We are officially two weeks in and I am so excited about today’s topic. Yesterday, I talked about how to become aware when you inner naysayer pops up and today I am going to share with you how self -love can reduce stress and anxiety.

Stress and anxiety go hand in hand. When you feel stressed or anxious, your physical and mental wellbeing can suffer. You’re not living your best quality of life if you experience these things on a regular basis. Learning to love yourself can help to greatly reduce feelings of overwhelm. Understanding how these emotions manifest in the body and the ways that self-love can combat them can help you to begin the work toward valuing yourself more on your way to feeling better. Take a look below to learn how self-love can reduce stress and anxiety.

About Stress and Anxiety

Stress arises due to demands that are put on your body and brain. In today’s busy world, we’re expected to do so much and have so many obligations. It’s only natural that we will experience stress. You likely experience stress quite often if you have a demanding job, family responsibilities, or a full plate of commitments. Anxiety can be the result of stress. It’s feelings of worry, fear, or dread. Sometimes these feelings are just under the surface. Other times, they can be quite severe. Stress and anxiety can lead to physical health problems as well as aggravate mental health conditions.

Why Self-Love Matters

A strong sense of self-love can help to combat stress and anxiety. When you value yourself, you take care of you. You put yourself first and prioritize your happiness. This gives you a strong foundation to make decisions that are in your best interest, rather than falling prey to things that lead to stress and anxiety. When you love yourself, you learn to set boundaries. You won’t be as apt to give into people pleasing, overscheduling, or allowing disrespect. Knowing your worth lets you take your own needs into consideration and can greatly aid in lowering the demands placed upon you from others or even your own inner naysayer.

Tips to Get Started

There are ways you can practice self-love that will help you to greatly reduce the stress and anxiety in your life. Simply taking time to remind yourself of your value is a good start. When you feel that you’re worthwhile, you’re better prepared to stand up to pressure from others or even yourself. Protect yourself from negative influences by removing toxic people from your life. Let go of folks who regularly cause you to feel bad or anxious. Listen to your internal messages. When you hear your inner naysayer pop up, take the time to examine what it’s telling you and then reframe the message in a way that’s more realistic. You’ll be better prepared to deal with any issues in a healthy and proactive way that doesn’t lead you to feeling stressed out.

Increasing your self-love can go a long way toward decreasing stress and anxiety. Give these tips a try to start feeling more in control and lowering the unnecessary demands in your life. You’ll start to notice that you feel lighter and better prepared to defend your boundaries when you develop a strong sense of who you are.

If you want to connect with women who want to support you on your journey, visit HBSQUAD.com and tomorrow we are talking how powerful pep talks can be.

XOXO,

Ashley

Embrace Self-Love Without Becoming a Narcissist (DAY #12 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hey Beautiful!

You may still feel unsure about the idea of self-love, especially if you’ve been taught your whole life to put others ahead of yourself and that it’s selfish to take care of yourself. Hopefully, you’re beginning to see now that self-care is an important part of developing as a healthy person. Valuing yourself is not the same as narcissism. In this post, you’ll discover what it means to be a narcissist and the ways in which self-love is different. Take a look.

What is a Narcissist?

A narcissist takes loving themselves to the extreme. They take this exclusion of others to the extent that they actually tend to lack empathy. Narcissists tend to compare themselves to other people, always needing to be considered better. If they don’t feel they excel in comparison, they often become angry. Not only are they concerned with being better than others, they also must keep up appearances. They are worried that those around them won’t see them as a stellar employee, caring spouse, or a good friend. They’re more worried about how they look in playing the role rather than how they actually perform it and how they treat others. They also want the people around them to validate how wonderful they are. They enjoy heaps of praise for their performance. They also look to status symbols for their worth – such as fancy cars, impressive titles, and expensive jewelry. In addition, the narcissist usually sees things as black or white. They love you or they hate you. The underlying reasons for all these traits is that they don’t hold themselves in high regard..

Why Self-Love is Different

Self-love differs from narcissism because the individual who loves themselves actually has positive feelings about their worth as a person. Their actions are driven by the fact that they have compassion for themselves and care about others. Self-love without narcissism involves thinking highly of yourself without needing to feel better than others. It is concerned with doing well for the sake of the end result, not simply to look good. When you genuinely love yourself, you also want to do right by others, and you aren’t interested merely in how you come across. Your actions aren’t driven by deep-seated insecurity and self-loathing.

Why It Matters

It’s important to understand the difference between self-love and narcissism if you want to fully embrace self-love without second guessing yourself. The fact that you’re concerned with being self-centered matters. This shows that you are concerned with being a good person and with your effect on the people around you. This fact usually indicates that you don’t have to worry about becoming a narcissist. 

If you’re worried as you continue your self-love journey, take time to review this article. Look at yourself and your actions to determine your motivations for viewing yourself highly. This type of assessment can help you to stay on track toward practicing healthy self-love.

Join the conversation in my HB Squad Group and tomorrow I will be discussing how important becoming aware of your inner naysayer is.

XOXO,

Ashley

How to Practice Self-Love Daily(DAY #11 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hello Beautiful 🙂

Yesterday, we talked about how to recognize your inner naysayer when it pops up in your mind. I hope it helped you to identify the reasons why it is so important and ways for you to manage it. Self-love is needed, but oftentimes we forget to or don’t know how to practice it.

By now, you should have a fairly good idea of what self-love is and why it’s important. You know that confidence and self-awareness are essential components of loving yourself. What you might be wondering is how to start practicing self-love on a regular basis so that you can begin to internalize new messages and rid yourself of that pesky naysayer once and for all. Fortunately, there are some steps you can take to cultivate self-love on a regular basis. Take a look.

Focus on the Here and Now

Too often, we find ourselves looking at the past with longing or waiting for someday. It’s hard to love yourself and your life when you don’t appreciate what you have in the moment. Centering yourself on the present, being mindful, and practicing gratitude are quick ways to cultivate an appreciation for what you have right now.

Work on Your Goals

Setting goals that reflect your values will help you to feel you’re living a life of purpose. You’ll know you’re taking real steps toward growing as a person when you’re regularly doing things that will bring you closer to your desires. Proactively using your time rather than just absent-mindedly going with the flow and putting out fires is quite empowering.

Set Boundaries

Boundaries are an important part of self-care. Setting boundaries means you put yourself and your needs first sometimes. This is a healthy approach to life and ensures you have the energy to take care of the things that matter. Saying no to toxic relationships and unnecessary obligations will free your spirit and keep you from becoming burnt out.

Take Care of Yourself

It can be hard to take time for yourself in this busy world full of obligations. This is especially true when you’ve gotten in the habit of putting yourself last on the list. To experience true self-love, you need to start giving yourself higher priority. You can do this by eating well, exercising, taking time for a hobby, pampering yourself, or any other activity that focuses on your wellbeing.

Forgive Yourself

Most of all, you must learn to forgive yourself to truly love yourself. We all make mistakes. It’s a part of the human condition. Some of those mistakes will be serious and life altering. Allowing yourself understanding and care regarding those things will show you that you’re still worthy despite your faults. This is a crucial lesson on the road to embracing self-love.

These are just a handful of examples of some ways you can easily begin the practice of self-love. If even this many strategies seems overwhelming, feel free to begin trying just a couple. This is a process that takes time, effort, and practice.

If you would like a community to help keep you accountable on your journey to becoming a better you everyday, then head on over to the #HBSquad Group. Tomorrow, we are going to be talking about how to practice self-love without adapting the traits of a narcissist. See you then!

XOXO,

Ashley