Hello Beautiful 🙂

Yesterday, we talked about how to recognize your inner naysayer when it pops up in your mind. I hope it helped you to identify the reasons why it is so important and ways for you to manage it. Self-love is needed, but oftentimes we forget to or don’t know how to practice it.

By now, you should have a fairly good idea of what self-love is and why it’s important. You know that confidence and self-awareness are essential components of loving yourself. What you might be wondering is how to start practicing self-love on a regular basis so that you can begin to internalize new messages and rid yourself of that pesky naysayer once and for all. Fortunately, there are some steps you can take to cultivate self-love on a regular basis. Take a look.

Focus on the Here and Now

Too often, we find ourselves looking at the past with longing or waiting for someday. It’s hard to love yourself and your life when you don’t appreciate what you have in the moment. Centering yourself on the present, being mindful, and practicing gratitude are quick ways to cultivate an appreciation for what you have right now.

Work on Your Goals

Setting goals that reflect your values will help you to feel you’re living a life of purpose. You’ll know you’re taking real steps toward growing as a person when you’re regularly doing things that will bring you closer to your desires. Proactively using your time rather than just absent-mindedly going with the flow and putting out fires is quite empowering.

Set Boundaries

Boundaries are an important part of self-care. Setting boundaries means you put yourself and your needs first sometimes. This is a healthy approach to life and ensures you have the energy to take care of the things that matter. Saying no to toxic relationships and unnecessary obligations will free your spirit and keep you from becoming burnt out.

Take Care of Yourself

It can be hard to take time for yourself in this busy world full of obligations. This is especially true when you’ve gotten in the habit of putting yourself last on the list. To experience true self-love, you need to start giving yourself higher priority. You can do this by eating well, exercising, taking time for a hobby, pampering yourself, or any other activity that focuses on your wellbeing.

Forgive Yourself

Most of all, you must learn to forgive yourself to truly love yourself. We all make mistakes. It’s a part of the human condition. Some of those mistakes will be serious and life altering. Allowing yourself understanding and care regarding those things will show you that you’re still worthy despite your faults. This is a crucial lesson on the road to embracing self-love.

These are just a handful of examples of some ways you can easily begin the practice of self-love. If even this many strategies seems overwhelming, feel free to begin trying just a couple. This is a process that takes time, effort, and practice.

If you would like a community to help keep you accountable on your journey to becoming a better you everyday, then head on over to the #HBSquad Group. Tomorrow, we are going to be talking about how to practice self-love without adapting the traits of a narcissist. See you then!



You are so much more than labels (DAY #8 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Yesterday on Day 7, I talked about how self-love and confidence are connected and why it is important to build your confidence daily. Today, I want to talk about something that affects us in our society today that we may not even be consciously aware of. Labels.

Labels are all-encompassing. We use them to describe and identify both ourselves and others. Labels are even applied by people who don’t know each other. However, it’s often the labels we give ourselves or the ones applied by those closest to us that have the biggest impact. Some labels are hurtful and may seem inescapable. Labels can be helpful in helping to provide a basic understanding of roles or identities. One problem with labels, however, is that we can sometimes fail to see beyond them. Continue reading for a more in-depth look at labels and why it’s important to remember that you’re so much more than what they convey.

What’s in a Label?

We’re given labels in various aspects of our lives. You probably use one to define your career or job title. Maybe you’re a parent and go by “mom” or “dad.” There are labels to define race and ethnicity. Ones that point to certain characteristics are common. You’ve been using labels practically since you were born. Some of these may make you feel good. Others are hurtful. Many labels are assigned to us by others. Some we place on ourselves.

Labels Can Be Limiting

Labels don’t define who you are as a person, though. They don’t tell who you are or who you desire to be. Using and accepting labels can be limiting. Perhaps you were told as a young child that you were lazy. You could go through your own life limiting your potential because you’ve become convinced you don’t have the ambition to go after your dreams. Even positive or neutral labels can place limits on you. For instance, many mothers feel that the label of “mom” means they have to leave a part of themselves behind and focus solely on meeting the needs of their children. This causes them to abandon their own interests and lose a large part of their identities.

How to Move Beyond the Labels

It’s important to remember that you can move beyond these labels. That’s where self-love comes in. When you see yourself as valuable and worthwhile, you’ll feel more confident in defining your own labels. Breaking through labels requires self-awareness, acceptance, and belief in your abilities. You can create your own new identity separate from any of the labels you’ve been given. You simply need to decide what it is you want to be known for and start living with this image in mind. Don’t hesitate to correct anyone who mislabels you in a way that makes you feel negative or uncomfortable.

Labels are a part of life, but they don’t define who you are inside. Break out of the box and claim your own identity. Creating your own labels will lead to increased self-love and confidence.

If you are looking for a community of women who want to support and encourage you on your self-love and purpose walk, visit and tomorrow we begin talking about your inner naysayer.



Clarity of purpose Breeds Confidence (DAY #6 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi beautiful!

If you missed yesterday’s post, I gave you the deets on how being more self-aware can help you feel better about yourself. Today, you will learn how having a clearly defined purpose can be a huge confidence booster.

Having a strong sense of self is imperative to loving yourself. As noted in yesterday’s post, self-awareness helps you to better understand yourself and what drives your behavior. This understanding helps you to be more compassionate with yourself when times are tough. Similarly, having a strong sense of purpose can help to solidify your self-love. When you know what you want to do with your life, it’s easier to recognize your own value and to feel more love for yourself. Getting clear about your purpose can help boost your confidence. Read on to learn how it works. 

What is Purpose?

Purpose can have a wide array of definitions. For this post, consider your purpose to be your “why.” For example, why do you do what you do? What is the underlying motivation you have for working, playing, relating to others, etc.? If you don’t know the answer to this, it’s time to start giving it some thought. Take notes on these questions and look for patterns of what drives you. Knowing your strongest motivation or purpose in life is important to a number of things, including your success, happiness, and self-confidence.

The Connection Between Purpose and Confidence

When you understand what’s most important to you in life, you can then take proactive actions based on those priorities. Living in accordance with your purpose will lead you to feel better about yourself because you know you’re making decisions that are in line with your values and that you’re making strides toward doing the things that will help you to reach your goals. When you have purpose in your life, you have taken steps to declare what’s important to you and what matters most. That can be quite empowering, also leading to increased self-esteem. You’re living on your own terms, not ones determined by outside forces.

How to Develop Your Sense of Purpose

Developing your sense of purpose and discovering just what that is can be the tricky part. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to move that process along. Taking stock of what matters most to you and your priorities in life is a good start. As noted earlier, you can make a list of these things and look for patterns to guide your next steps. It’s also helpful to get out there and try new things. The more experiences and people you expose yourself to, the more likely you are to find something that speaks to you, aligns with your values, and influences your future decisions. If you’re not sure what you want to try, start with things that interest you or that you’ve considered trying in the past, then go from there. Keep in mind that you don’t have to settle for just one purpose. There could be multiple things that sustain your interest and push you forward each and every day.

This is just a short summary of what purpose is and how it contributes to confidence. Give the suggestions above a try and start seeking your own life’s purpose. Soon, you’ll find yourself living a life you love.

If you would like to join a group of purpose-driven women who are ready to support you on your journey, visit Tomorrow, I am showing you the powerful connection between confidence and self-love and believe me, you don’t want to miss it!




Good morning beautiful!

Today is Day 5 of the Stop You Inner Naysayer series. Yesterday, I gave you three hacks to help you feel better about yourself and I hope they resonated with you and and you are implementing them in your life daily. Now, lets talk about what being self-aware really means and how it plays a huge part in every aspect of your life.

Emotions can wreak havoc on various aspects of life. All sorts of feelings, both positive and negative, likely play a role in how you behave and the choices you make. Understanding your own feelings and reactions can go far toward helping you to take control of your actions and to be happier with yourself overall. Having a handle on your emotions and knowing your triggers are important components of self-awareness. This trait is handy in boosting your level of self-love and general happiness. Let’s explore how becoming more self-aware can help you feel better about yourself.

About Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is recognizing and understanding your various emotional states. Knowing how you’re feeling, being able to put a name to it, and understanding the ways in which it impacts you are crucial to be a healthy person. This type of understanding gives you great insight into your yourself and helps to guide your behavior. Far too often, we find ourselves living on autopilot. We allow our emotions to control us, reacting when something triggers us. Becoming self-aware allows us to act purposefully and to make decisions based on the situation at hand, rather than letting our feelings and instincts lead us.

Why It Matters

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There are a lot of reasons why self-awareness matters. Knowing yourself can positively impact your life in so many ways. When you have a handle on your emotional state, you can better manage other aspects of life. You’ll notice you make more strategic decisions, instead of just acting on impulse. Your relationships with others will likely improve once you become aware of your emotional triggers and understand them better. Along this line of reasoning, it only makes sense that your relationship with yourself will also become healthier. You can love and forgive yourself more readily when you’re aware of the reasoning behind your deepest feelings and the behaviors that are caused by them.

Steps to Become More Self-Aware

There are some steps you can take to become more self-aware. One thing to know before embarking on this process is that self-awareness can often require brutal honesty. Taking a hard look at yourself and admitting what’s behind your feelings can be difficult, but the effort is well worth it. In order to become truly self-aware, you’ll need to be curious and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Looking beyond the obvious in order to discover what lies beneath is a necessary part of this process. It requires you to open yourself up to the potential of facing difficult emotions and finding ways to deal with them. If you’re having trouble identifying traits and patterns relevant to yourself, ask others you trust for input. This knowledge can provide important perspective on self-understanding.

Becoming more self-aware is a process. It won’t happen overnight. However, this time you invest in understanding your feelings and emotional responses will go far toward improving many aspects of your life. As a result, you’ll be in a better position to feel good about yourself and embrace self-love.

If you would like a group of supportive sister-friends, visit ready because tomorrow I am talking about getting clear about your purpose and how that can improve your confidence.



Ashley’s Continued Education Journey Begins

This is new decade and you will get tired of me saying that it is time to stop making excuses and play full out in your life. This is one major goal in my life that I am committed to achieving and I am taking you along for the ride.

Always be open to learning new things…I learned that early on in business. Some people think they know it all and those people won’t get very far. There is always more knowledge to gain and new processes or technologies to immerse yourself in.

In this series of blog posts, I will be giving you the scoop of my commitment to complete at least 25 continued education sessions or courses in 2020 to learn and grow. What I recommend to my students and clients is what I am doing in my own life as well. I will review each platform or course to help you decide if you would like to go on this journey with me.

Also, if their are courses or certificate programs that you recommend to female entrepreneurs, let me know in the comments and I will look into them and possibly try them out.

Lets get this show on the road and I will see you as I start my first lesson soon…



3 Simple Hacks to Help You Feel Better About Yourself Today (DAY #4 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Hi Beautiful!

Yesterday, I shared that self-love doesn’t have a definite definition and it is different for each person. I hope you have taken the time to define what what it means to you. Today, I am going to be giving you three hacks to help boost your self-love right now.

Self-love is a journey. It doesn’t come easily or quickly for most of us. Learning to love, care for, and respect ourselves takes time and dedication. It’s a process that comes with ups and downs. You’ll have some rough days, and you’ll want to throw in the towel. After all, many of our negative beliefs and habits have been ingrained in us throughout our whole lives. It will take time and practice to overcome these habits and start treating yourself with love. However, there are some simple hacks you can do to get started on the right foot and start feeling better about yourself today. Check them out.

Treat Yourself Like a Friend

One quick way to begin to show yourself some love is to treat yourself the way you would treat a friend or loved one. If you catch yourself repeating negative messages or putting yourself down, take time to consider whether you’d talk to someone you care about in such a manner. If not, you definitely shouldn’t be treating yourself with such disdain. After all, a core component of self-love is self-care. Caring about yourself isn’t selfish. It shows that you understand your worth and that you value who you are as a person. Try to take note when you start spouting negative self-talk. Then change it around to something more positive. Treat yourself with as much compassion as you would treat a friend.

Understand Your Triggers

We all have triggers that can elicit a reflexive reaction in us. When you find yourself feeling irritable, annoyed, hurt, or angry by something someone says or does, take time to consider why it is you’re feeling that way. This type of insight and self-awareness can truly help you to be more understanding and nurturing with yourself. It can also provide the knowledge you need to push past those triggers and to feel more at ease with yourself

Look Outside Yourself

It may sound counterintuitive but looking outside yourself at ways you can help others is a fantastic way to help yourself feel better. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and to wallow in our own problems. In fact, it’s only human to do so. However, you can break out of such negative patterns by proactively looking for ways you can make a difference to someone else. Even the smallest steps can help. For example, taking time to listen to a friend’s problem can help you to feel more connected to them and to feel proud that you were able to be there for them. It can also help to put some of your own life’s issues into perspective. Find ways to look outside yourself if you find you need a quick pick-me-up.

Keep these tips in mind to help you feel better about yourself when you’re in a funk. These simple things can help put you on the fast track to self-love.

You are beautiful and you are enough.

Join the conversation in the HB Squad Group and stay tuned for tomorrow where I talk about how important being SELF AWARE is.